Proverbs 21:3

Read Proverbs 21:3

Helpful Background Information: 

• As we continue our theme of having a humble perspective in marriage/relationships, we move from accepting loving correction to offering loving correction.

• In our specific Proverb for today, Solomon (the author of Proverbs) provides the basis for all our discernment, judgments, and opinions in our relationships. “Doing what is righteous and just is more acceptable to the LORD than sacrifice” (Quoted in CSB). 

• As Christians, our priority is to love God with all our hearts, souls, and minds (Matthew 22:37), even more than our spouses or anything else (Matthew 10:37). The natural consequence of loving God above all else is delighting in his law, precepts, and commandments; for his law is a reflection of who he is (Psalm 119). Hence, in our marriages and friendships, we desire righteousness to be displayed and lived out in every aspect of them. We want these relationships to delight in what God delights in, and reject what God calls sinful. 

• And so, when we offer loving correction to our spouses and friends, we do so for this reason. We must remember that we ourselves are sinners in need of grace, and the call to be righteous applies to us first. Then, we move to graciously correct our spouses and friends, desiring for them to live in the manner God desires. A marriage or friendship where both parties are committed to God’s standard is one that will flourish. 

Reflection Questions: 

• How does your love for God shape the way you love your spouse/friends? 

• In your marriage or friendships, what practices or habits can you pursue with the other to run after God’s righteousness together?

• In your marriages or friendships, what are some areas you can discern that need repentance and movement towards what God desires? How can you wisely and lovingly talk to your spouse/friend about it?