1 Samuel 18:1-9

Read 1 Samuel 18:1-9

Helpful Background Information: 

• In the Bible, we see that covenant promises aren’t only made in the context of marriage but can also extend to friendships on a broader level. A key example of this is found in the friendship shared by David and Jonathan. 

• Two aspects of David and Jonathan’s covenant friendship are especially noteworthy. First, we see that they both loved one another sacrificially, putting each other’s interests above their own. Evidence of this can be found in the agreement they make—where Jonathan voluntarily chooses to defer his right to the throne over to David (v.4). Reciprocity can be seen in this friendship as David agrees to protect Jonathan’s family and Jonathan continues to look out for David. From what we know, these actions were done without envy or jealousy. Another notable aspect of their friendship was their loyalty to each other. Later, in 1 Samuel 19:1-3), we see Jonathan’s loyal defense of David on display. Whenever Saul tries to kill or slander David, Jonathan speaks up and defends him. 

• All true friendships, according to the Bible, possess this kind of loyalty, sacrifice, and trust. 

Reflection Questions: 

• Marks of biblical friendship include loyalty, sacrifice, and trust. Do these characteristics describe your closest friendships? Why or why not?

• Throughout the Bible, covenants are found in both marriages and friendships. In what ways is a friendship similar to a marriage? In what ways do these relationships differ? 

• What might biblical friendships teach the believer about their relationship with God? How do covenant friendships illuminate our understanding of marriage and the gospel?